Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Cleaning, clearing, and complaining

Yes, complaining. I still have laundry to get done,
my daughter wants me to play games with her all day,the floors have to be washed,
there is food to prepare,cats to be fed, crabitats to be cleaned,a bathroom to be scrubbed...
my daughter is asking for more maths...
my Grandmother is still in hospital they are sure she had a stroke, not sure when...
my extended family is fighting over everything, and that is only going to get worse.
My refrigerator's water hose was leaking yesterday, so we had to shut off the water
until Farmer Dad got home from work...I could keep going, but basically it's all stupid.

In these crazy times, we still have so much to be thankful for, and I have been wasting
my precious time complaining about my life. Stupid! I have a house, and it is getting closer to being
paid for every month.I have a refrigerator with an ice maker,filled with food,I have plenty of clothes and blankets
to keep us warm, we have loving pets to share our lives with and my daughter actually enjoys learning and spending time with me.My Grandmother has insurance, and a medical community to take care of her needs and family to see it gets done. Why all the b*tchin and complaining? I am going to work on that.
Not figuring out why...just not doing it so much.I am going to try to get as much of my house clean enough so we can enjoy our holiday, and the next four days with Farmer Dad home from work, and then I am going to
sit on my floor (even if it still really needs to be cleaned in my opinion)and play with my beautiful and healthy daughter.I am going to remind myself, and her how very lucky I am to have her in my life.

I feel extremely lucky to have all of you in my life as well. Thank you for taking time out of your busy lives
to share in ours. Thank you for offering guidance,a warm hug,a good laugh and encouragement when needed and a thank you for reminding me that my choices have value and that I am not alone.
Thank you for being my friends, even if we have never met in person.

Happy Thanksgiving!!!


Kari Wright said...

I love the "not figuring out why" We already know the's in Genesis, right? We just have to deny ouselves in order to truly enjoy ourselves! Good luck, and enjoy your blessings!

Anonymous said...

Sitting down despite the mess and enjoying time with P will be a huge accomplishment. I know it would be for me.

Sorry your family is fighting. I know that is one thing you really can't control. I realized last night that I didn't back to you and remembered your grandmother's stroke. Strokes are never good. I only hope she is comfortable and that not too much work falls to you.

Enjoy the time as a family. Thanks for reminding me to do the same. Healthy kids and a warm house really are all we need, well that and a stack of library books. ;) ((hugs)

Cher Mere said...


I think we have all been there. It is okay to complain for a bit. Maybe letting it out clears room to let the good stuff in. It could all be part of the process.

And you are very blessed.

Happy Thanksgiving

sarah p said...

I hope your grandmother will recover fully. What an awful time of the year for her to be in hospital. Don't worry about complaining, I think it is healthy, especially as it has led you to a more positive vision. Happy Thanksgiving.

Gottfredsen said...

Sometimes you do just need to complain to get out those feelings. It is not healthy to keep it in. The thing is you have never once given any of us the idea that you do not appreciate your life. So never feel bad when you do feel the need to complain, because we are all here and willing to listen because we love you. So big hugs and go play that game with your daughter.

Naomi said...

hey! i'm sick, so you quit your bitchin, it's my turn! j/k. venting is good. grandma's gonna be okay. she's going to outlast the lot of you. always pick playing w/ the princess over cleaning...that's why my house is a big ol' mess : )

happy thanksgiving

Steph said...

Nice post :) Have a happy Thanksgiving!!

Sara said...

Let it out, we'll listen to your complaints and send you virtual hugs, and you'll feel better and go on to enjoy your wonderful life. Hugs.

zilla said...

Phluck the phoors, I say. (You may delete this comment, as you see fit).

My mother, who, despite her own best instincts, frolics on the fastidious side of the fence, once lent a book to a neighbor. Year and a half later, neighbor stops by with the book to return it.

Neighbor says, "Thank you so much. I really did love this book, Ann. I'm sorry I'm so tardy in returning it."

Neighbor then swipes her hand across the front of the book, and an elephant-sized dust-bunny plummets off the book's edges to the earth, causing a category 7 earthquake, which may have been felt as far away as New Jersey, considering Mom lives in Vermont.

Neighbor then says, "Jesus, it's really too bad that housework is so bloody uninteresting, isn't it?"

This was years ago, Kate.

It provided me with one of those rare moments of enlightenment we all search for our entire lives:

Clean floors are so entirely boss that if I make myself wait just one more week to create them, I will then appreciate them ten times more.

Happy Thanksgiving, to you and yours!

Tara said...

Thanks for being a bloggy friend! Have a wonderful holiday with your friends and family.

rae said...

Sometimes it really does seem that we need a bit of the bitter stuff to recognize the sweet.

Sending good wishes for your family. Take care of yourself, dear, and relish in the goodness.

8)(8 said...

Sorry to hear your grandmother is dying; the situation is made worse by relatives fighting. I hope they will come to their senses.

This is a stressful time of year because we all have expectations. If you can leave the mess, the floors can wait, and spend time with your girl. I even let the mess stay. My aunt decided not to come which left only my sister and her kids, so I let Ami's two rooms remain as is.

My Inspired Heart said...

Kate....I hope your grandmother fully recovers....and I know how stressful something like that can be at this time of the year to only be topped off by bickering relatives :(

As you said you are really blessed! Don't worry about the cleaning....just be in the moment with your precious girl and your husband! Things will work themselves out.

Don't worry about complaining or venting, either. Sometimes it does wonders to just get it out! And, besides....we don't mind - we're all here with our virtual ears and we understand where you're coming from :)

Sending hugs to you, Kate! Hope your Thanksgiving was great and enjoy your long weekend!

Kate in NJ said...

((BIG HUGS)) Gals, thank you so much for all your kindness!

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